Twelve Things You Should Never Share With Other People

by Gerald Sinclair

As we move through life, we want to share things with others, but there are some things we should keep to ourselves. While there will be a few people we can share the important things with, we have to be careful.

1. Confidential Information about someone else or personal information can harm someone's reputation and privacy, it's generally best to keep it to yourself.

2. Personal Problems of Others: Sharing personal issues or problems that belong to someone else without their permission can breach their trust and lead to unintended consequences.

3. Negative Thoughts or Gossip: Engaging in gossip or sharing negative thoughts about mutual friends can damage relationships and create a toxic atmosphere within the friend group.

4. Work-related Confidences: Sharing sensitive work-related information or details about your job that could compromise your position or violate company policies should be kept confidential.

5. Past Mistakes or Regrets: While vulnerability is important in friendships, sharing every detail of your past mistakes or regrets may not always be necessary or beneficial, especially if it could change how your friends perceive you. Sharing your weaknesses with other people gives them something that they can use against you. The more they know about your weaknesses the more they can work towards bringing you down if they choose to do so. Your vulnerable side isn't something everyone who comes into your life needs to be aware of.

6. Future Plans or Goals: Sharing detailed future plans or goals with friends can sometimes lead to unnecessary pressure. It may also create jealousy, or competition within your friendships. While it is fine to share your plans for the future with those closest to you, or get counsel from those who have experience, the people who aren't within your inner circle don't need to know where you're headed in life. Keeping your goals to yourself within reason gives you more motivation to push through. Those who aren't helping you build your future have no reason to know about it in the first place.

7. Intimate Details about your romantic relationships or personal life may be better kept between you and your partner, rather than shared with friends. It's important to use your judgment and consider the specific dynamics of your friendships when deciding what to share and what to keep private. Trust is a key component of any healthy relationship, and being mindful of what you share can help maintain strong and respectful friendships. If you want things to work out romantically, you should keep your problems between the two of you and work them out together emphasizes the importance of resolving conflicts without external interference, fostering deeper, more meaningful connections.

8. Never share your achievements. Sure it feels good to brag about the things you've accomplished, but that doesn't mean you should go around doing it. Even close friends will stay away from you if all you do is talk about yourself.

9. Never share your material possessions. You might have accomplished a lot in life and managed to buy nice, expensive things, but that doesn't mean showing off is a good idea. Showing off puts you at a place in which you look like a jerk, and also makes it easier to target you in ways you might not expect. Have those nice things and appreciate them as your own.

10. Never share your income specifics. No one around you needs to know how much money you're making. Your income specifics should be something only you know about.

11. Never share your acts of kindness. You should do kind things and be there for those in need but don't go around boasting about it to the whole world. Acts of kindness should be done in silence, we shouldn't expect recognition for them. When we do kind things, we do it to help and better this planet, not to get a pat on the back.

12. Never share your family issues. While you might be going through some serious family issues, those outside of the family don't need to be aware of the specifics. These issues are not yours alone to share, and you need to remember that. Be mindful of the people you call family and keep their best interest in mind above all else.

Blessings, Julie